Shunning of Ex Pr's from one church or many?

Good Idea.

And that's just those who are on this board. Imagine if we had 100% participation. I think we know what it would look like!

Yup - because only 11ish people have voted so far, but I'm assuming that many have larger families, covering multiple churches, and are shunned by their whole family. For me, my mom has not shunned me, but my sister has. My extended family has not shunned me, but I wasn't really close to most of my cousins, so even if they had, it wouldn't have affected me.  

Unless you have been an official in this group it will be hard to participate in that poll.  True colors come out only behind the closed doors of the council meetings, classis and synod, as well as various committees.

True, but it is possible to do a poll of prca:DoI members who have directly heard from leadership as to the efficacy of this type of behavior and have been encouraged to adopt it, or conversely, have had this reprehensible behavior made known to leadership and it was ignored or even encouraged. I think that is what gracefull meant. Not to put words in your mouth, gracefull.

Hudsonville church has a problem going on right now and the pastor knows. There is a family shunning a woman there because she is friends with someone they don't approve of. They were ok with it for 25 years but last year they flipped a switch and now no longer speak to her. They sit in front of her and don't say hi. Pastor knows about this situation and is doing nothing....maybe cause the family is wealthy and if the pastor tells them they shouldn't then Hudsonville church would lose a wealthy family and cash supporter???

The problem as well is that the PR church is a big machine... each church is a small cog revolving around synod and classis... they say there is local autonomy, but there isn't... The only "power" the local church has is to call their minister from the bunch of ministers that are all trained by the same professors. So they all have the same indoctrination as what is there now. Things won't change. There maybe some people that will try to change things, but you can't and from what I've seen, when you try.. you get labeled as a troublemaker.

You can see from this poll that there are 19 churches that are practicing shunning of people. Some of the people that are being shunned are considered to be in "sin" by the prc because of whatever reason... but for me, and some others... our only sin was to leave the prc. We talked to 2 different PR ministers about being shunned and they both said that it wasn't right... and yet, nothing is being done about it. We have gotten very similar responses to gracefull. Its generally #3 ~ 3) You know we don't agree right, (Whispered silently when no other PR's are around)

I know that there are PR's that are lurking and posting on this site... if you are male or in consistory or a pastor and you disagree with shunning, stand up about it! If you are female... sorry, there is really nothing that you can do because you have no recourse. If you complain you will be causing distention and if you are married and complain... you will be considered a contentious woman...