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Post by questioneverything on Jul 15, 2022 20:35:18 GMT
Thank you for your story, I especially thank you for being human. Stories need to be told, we need to be reminded we are human. Peace, brave Heidi. My wife and I cried tears of sorrow and joy tonight, and we're glad we are human with you, we all with so many stories, sans those who call us out or call us queens; our crowns hold no jewels, no gold, no precious metals...but desires. Desires for endings, desires for beginnings, desires for understanding. A desire, a cry for the pain to end. Will it end? I don't know...The Judgement and the Damage Done. Please do not give up hope. I will not give up and I need you and your wife and so many others cheering me on. Alone, I am small. With you all around me, I am mighty! Yes, judgement and damage is and has been done and it is HORRIFIC. I just hope that I can be some sort of beauty from ashes. Together, we can make something beautiful happen. Sending so much love and support to you both. I truly love you and everyone else who have welcomed, accepted, supported, and shown me love and grace through this process! Love always wins. I believe that. Fear, manipulation, and conditional love cannot retain their hold when the ones under their grip experience real love and acceptance. I have all the weapons I need. I have love and that's what I am going after them with. I'm going to love their congregants so hard, and so big, and so undeniably that it's going to start looking appealing to be in the sunlight! There's so much darkness there and living things do not grow in the dark. That's my game plan and that's how I'm going to war. It's a fight I will fight until I die if I have to. I t all comes from a place of deep love and compassion. A place of understanding. And that my friend, is the secret to winning. Heidi, The Phoenix.
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Post by questioneverything on Jul 15, 2022 22:04:29 GMT
Please do not give up hope. I will not give up and I need you and your wife and so many others cheering me on. Alone, I am small. With you all around me, I am mighty! Yes, judgement and damage is and has been done and it is HORRIFIC. I just hope that I can be some sort of beauty from ashes. Together, we can make something beautiful happen. Sending so much love and support to you both. I truly love you and everyone else who have welcomed, accepted, supported, and shown me love and grace through this process! Love always wins. I believe that. Fear, manipulation, and conditional love cannot retain their hold when the ones under their grip experience real love and acceptance. I have all the weapons I need. I have love and that's what I am going after them with. I'm going to love their congregants so hard, and so big, and so undeniably that it's going to start looking appealing to be in the sunlight! There's so much darkness there and living things do not grow in the dark. That's my game plan and that's how I'm going to war. It's a fight I will fight until I die if I have to. I t all comes from a place of deep love and compassion. A place of understanding. And that my friend, is the secret to winning. Heidi, The Phoenix. Here's to the Phoenix in all of us.
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Post by Hw on Jul 16, 2022 2:06:50 GMT
Here's to the Phoenix in all of us. Yes, this!!! The flames are taking flight!
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Post by Hw on Jul 16, 2022 2:14:40 GMT
Please do not give up hope. I will not give up and I need you and your wife and so many others cheering me on. Alone, I am small. With you all around me, I am mighty! Yes, judgement and damage is and has been done and it is HORRIFIC. I just hope that I can be some sort of beauty from ashes. Together, we can make something beautiful happen. Sending so much love and support to you both. I truly love you and everyone else who have welcomed, accepted, supported, and shown me love and grace through this process! Love always wins. I believe that. Fear, manipulation, and conditional love cannot retain their hold when the ones under their grip experience real love and acceptance. I have all the weapons I need. I have love and that's what I am going after them with. I'm going to love their congregants so hard, and so big, and so undeniably that it's going to start looking appealing to be in the sunlight! There's so much darkness there and living things do not grow in the dark. That's my game plan and that's how I'm going to war. It's a fight I will fight until I die if I have to. I t all comes from a place of deep love and compassion. A place of understanding. And that my friend, is the secret to winning. Heidi, The Phoenix. I don't even know what to say. I have never experienced support like this EVER. what a truly beautiful community we are. That's what could break their walls. Let people inside that church continue to see our community. The beauty and acceptance it offers along with honest real conversations. I believe they, or at least many,will come to want what we have and I will be ready to welcome them out of that church. The Phoenix is a favorite of mine. Thank you, it's a compliment I appreciate.
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Post by AgnosticAgain on Jul 18, 2022 2:16:54 GMT
Why do PR fathers do this to their daughters? I have also been embarrassed publicly by my father at work and other public places. Not as a minor, but as an adult woman. It is not far-fetched at all to consider getting a restraining order. Just very confusing to be shunned privately and then be ambushed publicly in these ways.
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Post by ilovemyex on Jul 19, 2022 11:23:52 GMT
Be the person who breaks the cycle. If you were judged, choose understanding. If you were rejected, choose acceptance. If you were shamed, choose compassion. Be the person you needed when you were hurting, not the person who hurt you. Vow to be better than what broke you - To heal instead of becoming bitter so you can act from your heart, not your pain.
Heidi, I know you are driven to love and as your husband, I support this as I have seen the healing process in motion.
Breaking the cycle isn't easy, but I can assure you it's worth it. I am thankful for this platform as it has been the source of so much healing just in the past week alone.
Heidi has been contacted by so many people with similar stories who have found hope and strength through her sharing. I love hearing when someone says to her or us, "I've never told anyone this before but I feel like its safe to share with you... " - this is a clear signal that the enemy is losing ground and there is freedom in bringing it to the light.
If you find yourself in the middle of a tough life situation and need someone to talk to, walk along side of you, pray with you, our door is ALWAYS OPEN. No judgement. No finger pointing. We respect your privacy and come from a place of love. You aren't meant to do this journey alone.
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Post by Hw on Jul 19, 2022 20:09:07 GMT
Be the person who breaks the cycle. If you were judged, choose understanding. If you were rejected, choose acceptance. If you were shamed, choose compassion. Be the person you needed when you were hurting, not the person who hurt you. Vow to be better than what broke you - To heal instead of becoming bitter so you can act from your heart, not your pain. Heidi, I know you are driven to love and as your husband, I support this as I have seen the healing process in motion. Breaking the cycle isn't easy, but I can assure you it's worth it. I am thankful for this platform as it has been the source of so much healing just in the past week alone. Heidi has been contacted by so many people with similar stories who have found hope and strength through her sharing. I love hearing when someone says to her or us, "I've never told anyone this before but I feel like its safe to share with you... " - this is a clear signal that the enemy is losing ground and there is freedom in bringing it to the light. If you find yourself in the middle of a tough life situation and need someone to talk to, walk along side of you, pray with you, our door is ALWAYS OPEN. No judgement. No finger pointing. We respect your privacy and come from a place of love. You aren't meant to do this journey alone. Have I told you today how much I love you, husband of mine??❤️
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Post by beachbum on Jul 30, 2022 13:37:32 GMT
Part 2. Good morning forum. Just letting you all know that Part 2 is released tonight at 6:30pm EST. The support and love I have received from so many is appreciated beyond words. On another note. If any current members of the PR/RP comment on it, I see that as a good thing! Please engage respectfully with them and attempt to open a dialog. Change is long overdue and without dialog, step 1 to a new way of handling abuse will never happen! I realized the other day that many in those churches feel I am directly attacking a beloved institution that they hold dear. It's their way of life and the reason they do what they do. It's HARD to look inward and have to admit that it's been done wrong for decades. I can only imagine what it feels like to come to terms with the endless stories of abuse and realize your denomination allowed this cycle to endlessly repeat. If someone came into my world and attempted to change things, I'd likely have some things to say also. In the end though, I hope I would realize that maybe, just maybe, they cared enough about me to address something that was necessary to change and I could be receptive to at least discussing it. If you are in those churches, please, if you can, watch this and then ask to talk about it. It's not easy stuff. It's not a fun topic. But open discussion for the sake of being a truly God filled haven is healthy and needed. Trust me, I know that talking about this isn't comfortable and many prefer it just went away. I remember and I know the culture. I was abrupt with 1 and blunt with another yesterday to current PR members who responded to me. I'm a bit ashamed of that as I had an opportunity to try and engage them in meaningful conversion. I was sapped when their messages came as I had a day full of people reaching out with countless stories of abuse that left my soul heavy. Because it was so fresh, I responded in a way that I wish had been different. I didn't say anything I don't believe or feel. But the WAY I said it could have been better. So here's my public apology to beachbum and pemptyr. I did not address you the way I wish I had. I want conversation on this topic and I desperately want the abused members in the church to be supported and helped. I promise both of you that I will not respond so tersely if you choose to engage with me again. I will respect you and be thankful for an opportunity to talk. I'm fully aware that many won't like the podcast and I'm willing to talk about the WHY of that. Now my day can continue and I hope you have the best Thursday ever!
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Post by beachbum on Jul 30, 2022 13:38:12 GMT
Part 2. Good morning forum. Just letting you all know that Part 2 is released tonight at 6:30pm EST. The support and love I have received from so many is appreciated beyond words. On another note. If any current members of the PR/RP comment on it, I see that as a good thing! Please engage respectfully with them and attempt to open a dialog. Change is long overdue and without dialog, step 1 to a new way of handling abuse will never happen! I realized the other day that many in those churches feel I am directly attacking a beloved institution that they hold dear. It's their way of life and the reason they do what they do. It's HARD to look inward and have to admit that it's been done wrong for decades. I can only imagine what it feels like to come to terms with the endless stories of abuse and realize your denomination allowed this cycle to endlessly repeat. If someone came into my world and attempted to change things, I'd likely have some things to say also. In the end though, I hope I would realize that maybe, just maybe, they cared enough about me to address something that was necessary to change and I could be receptive to at least discussing it. If you are in those churches, please, if you can, watch this and then ask to talk about it. It's not easy stuff. It's not a fun topic. But open discussion for the sake of being a truly God filled haven is healthy and needed. Trust me, I know that talking about this isn't comfortable and many prefer it just went away. I remember and I know the culture. I was abrupt with 1 and blunt with another yesterday to current PR members who responded to me. I'm a bit ashamed of that as I had an opportunity to try and engage them in meaningful conversion. I was sapped when their messages came as I had a day full of people reaching out with countless stories of abuse that left my soul heavy. Because it was so fresh, I responded in a way that I wish had been different. I didn't say anything I don't believe or feel. But the WAY I said it could have been better. So here's my public apology to beachbum and pemptyr. I did not address you the way I wish I had. I want conversation on this topic and I desperately want the abused members in the church to be supported and helped. I promise both of you that I will not respond so tersely if you choose to engage with me again. I will respect you and be thankful for an opportunity to talk. I'm fully aware that many won't like the podcast and I'm willing to talk about the WHY of that. Now my day can continue and I hope you have the best Thursday ever!
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Post by beachbum on Jul 30, 2022 13:38:31 GMT
Part 2. Good morning forum. Just letting you all know that Part 2 is released tonight at 6:30pm EST. The support and love I have received from so many is appreciated beyond words. On another note. If any current members of the PR/RP comment on it, I see that as a good thing! Please engage respectfully with them and attempt to open a dialog. Change is long overdue and without dialog, step 1 to a new way of handling abuse will never happen! I realized the other day that many in those churches feel I am directly attacking a beloved institution that they hold dear. It's their way of life and the reason they do what they do. It's HARD to look inward and have to admit that it's been done wrong for decades. I can only imagine what it feels like to come to terms with the endless stories of abuse and realize your denomination allowed this cycle to endlessly repeat. If someone came into my world and attempted to change things, I'd likely have some things to say also. In the end though, I hope I would realize that maybe, just maybe, they cared enough about me to address something that was necessary to change and I could be receptive to at least discussing it. If you are in those churches, please, if you can, watch this and then ask to talk about it. It's not easy stuff. It's not a fun topic. But open discussion for the sake of being a truly God filled haven is healthy and needed. Trust me, I know that talking about this isn't comfortable and many prefer it just went away. I remember and I know the culture. I was abrupt with 1 and blunt with another yesterday to current PR members who responded to me. I'm a bit ashamed of that as I had an opportunity to try and engage them in meaningful conversion. I was sapped when their messages came as I had a day full of people reaching out with countless stories of abuse that left my soul heavy. Because it was so fresh, I responded in a way that I wish had been different. I didn't say anything I don't believe or feel. But the WAY I said it could have been better. So here's my public apology to beachbum and pemptyr. I did not address you the way I wish I had. I want conversation on this topic and I desperately want the abused members in the church to be supported and helped. I promise both of you that I will not respond so tersely if you choose to engage with me again. I will respect you and be thankful for an opportunity to talk. I'm fully aware that many won't like the podcast and I'm willing to talk about the WHY of that. Now my day can continue and I hope you have the best Thursday ever!
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Post by beachbum on Jul 30, 2022 13:39:40 GMT
Heid! So love you !! Prayers for you and your family!
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Post by Regina•Phalange on Aug 1, 2022 3:40:33 GMT
Wow, Heidi! Thank you for sharing your life and your heart. I think we all found a piece of ourselves in what you said. You have such a joyful and loving heart. It’s like you’re able to take the pain inflicted in your life and turn it to blessings for others. I’d say that’s a pretty awesome superpower. Remember to give yourself a portion of that grace you offer so freely. May our Savior continue to use you in incredible ways!
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Post by curious1 on Aug 4, 2022 3:40:21 GMT
Wow! My heart breaks for you, Heidi! Thank you for being courageous and brave to tell your story! You did an amazing job!
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