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Post by unwrittenrules on Jan 19, 2024 18:47:16 GMT
There is a free online Summit starting January 23, 2024 check it out: www.brokentobeloved.org/summitAlso saw that Chuck DeGroat is coming out with a new book in October called Healing What's Within.A quote by Chuck DeGroat: “Abuse” is what happened to you. “Trauma” is what happens within you. Healing what’s within is crucial to addressing both the abuse you’ve experienced and the imprint of trauma that remains.” |
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Post by unwrittenrules on Jan 23, 2024 16:23:22 GMT
Chuck DeGroat in the Summit, "Behind those walls is someone who is hurting, broken and wounded. And even behind the imprint of trauma is the imprint of Christ."
Encouraged to "do our own work of healing."
Invites to "curiosity and humility."
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Post by unwrittenrules on Jan 23, 2024 16:52:51 GMT
Geoff Holsclaw in the Geoff & Cyd Holsclaw: Quieting an Anxious and Avoidant Faith is explaining what attachments are. He goes on to say that in certain child caring environments,“Caregivers are very disconnected especially socially and emotionally. Maybe they care for your most basic physical needs. Very rule oriented, don’t respond to outbursts, and high emotions. They tell you stop feeling those feelings. Let’s just follow the rules, these are the check lists, this is the bedtime routines, how you feel about the situation is irrelevant. It is called a dismissing environment. So if you are raised in a dismissing environment it is not that you choose to ignore emotional information...they just stop doing it."
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Post by unwrittenrules on Jan 23, 2024 18:00:01 GMT
Quote by Heather Gargis in Reclaiming My Body's Power, "One of my like favorite facts is that we actually only use 20% of our cognition daily. That’s it. The other 80% comes from this implicit memory which is beneath our conscious awareness."
She had a lot of dynamite things to say!
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Post by unwrittenrules on Jan 23, 2024 20:13:58 GMT
Nikki G: Religious Trauma and the Black Community says this, "We come into this awareness. 'Oh my goodness. That's me' We want to run to people who really love us and share, 'Hey, this happened,' there is nothing wrong with that. That is something that is normal. I like to tell people a lot of times people love us, but if they haven't experience this they don't often understand. And they may not want to, do it, it is not their motive, but they wind up retraumatizing us and invalidating our experiences."
She talks about the difference between church hurt and abuse.
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Post by unwrittenrules on Jan 23, 2024 22:38:08 GMT
“My anxiety show up in a really weird way. When someone is talking about their problem. My anxiety tells me that I must help them and I must tell them what to do. Even though they are not asking for it.”-Steve Cuss Managing Anxiety and Being a Good and Godly Leader
Another quote:
“How do we know when we’re not well? What’s the range of just deal with it as a human, and no I need help. And when I hear you describing gaslighting, abuse and trauma that raises a huge flag in my brain. That there is a tendency in the kingdom in the modern christianity to minimize those things. Often times many of us were in church or christian leadership structures where leadership minimized it which makes it worse.”
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