|
|
Post by carmensandiego on Feb 11, 2021 13:32:59 GMT
Been enjoying this forum since I discovered it yesterday. I am glad this is out there. I’ve been out of the PRC for about 10 years. I recently got a whiff of some of the “present controversy” going on within the PRC (my still-PRC family has not mentioned anything about this to me!) and got curious, so I started googling and came across this forum. Hearing about other people’s experiences with the PRC feels like therapy! Helps me make sense of my own experience.
|
|
|
|
Post by prnolonger on Feb 11, 2021 16:50:59 GMT
Been enjoying this forum since I discovered it yesterday. I am glad this is out there. I’ve been out of the PRC for about 10 years. I recently got a whiff of some of the “present controversy” going on within the PRC (my still-PRC family has not mentioned anything about this to me!) and got curious, so I started googling and came across this forum. Hearing about other people’s experiences with the PRC feels like therapy! Helps me make sense of my own experience. There's catharsis in spades to be found here. Have fun reading through old threads. Or starting new ones. Or only lurking forever. There's really only a handful of active participatory users, most are users who stay lurking most of the time, maybe posting once or twice. Everybody gets something different out of it. Every once in a while you get a PR who signs in and starts posting because of (to quote another user here) a wildly misplaced confidence in their own opinion on different matters. Those are my favorite days. I hope you get to see one. And for any PR's (or RP's now, I guess now too, whatever you call yourselves) reading this, you are absolutely welcome to be here. You don't have to hide. |
|
|
|
Post by carmensandiego on Feb 11, 2021 18:37:35 GMT
There's catharsis in spades to be found here. Have fun reading through old threads. Or starting new ones. Or only lurking forever. There's really only a handful of active participatory users, most are users who stay lurking most of the time, maybe posting once or twice. Everybody gets something different out of it. Every once in a while you get a PR who signs in and starts posting because of (to quote another user here) a wildly misplaced confidence in their own opinion on different matters. Those are my favorite days. I hope you get to see one. Thanks for the welcome! I’m definitely enjoying the old threads, and I’ll no doubt be checking back on and off throughout the future. |
|
|
|
Post by cannalily on Feb 13, 2021 15:48:20 GMT
There's catharsis in spades to be found here. Have fun reading through old threads. Or starting new ones. Or only lurking forever. There's really only a handful of active participatory users, most are users who stay lurking most of the time, maybe posting once or twice. Everybody gets something different out of it. Every once in a while you get a PR who signs in and starts posting because of (to quote another user here) a wildly misplaced confidence in their own opinion on different matters. Those are my favorite days. I hope you get to see one. Thanks for the welcome! I’m definitely enjoying the old threads, and I’ll no doubt be checking back on and off throughout the future. It’s somewhat addicting knowing that finally there’s a place to chat, but also knowing that you weren’t the only one to get screwed over by these people. It’s strikingly uncanny how similar the stories really are though. That’s for sure. |
|
|
|
Post by judendorf on Feb 19, 2021 4:55:14 GMT
The support this forum affords is valuable, but I wish I was wealthy so I that I could offer an anonymous lifeline to people who feel trapped in the church because they could not provide for themself or their loved ones if they left. I’m sure there are numerous members who fear loss of their job or support from a spouse or church that they rely on. I’m sure that is a very important factor in the decision making process of many. I imagine it must be tortuous to want to get out but here you are with no resources, no prospects, no outside support, not even friends outside the church. Because friends on the outside as we all know is strictly forbidden and shame on you if you have friendships with those who are not part of the “true church”. Parents with kids who feel helpless and have to watch as their kids get sucked into the system I feel the worst for... The pressure is immense to stay and fighting that pressure is a huge task. I wish I could make it easier by ensuring financial stability during the transition but my meager resources are only enough to get my family by. Anyway, also glad forum exists for the perspective and support found here.
|
|
|
|
Post by gratefullyfree on Feb 19, 2021 5:08:30 GMT
Yes, it is difficult, but not impossible. There are resources out there for women and children who are abused by this cult, or feeling trapped, that don't require a lot of funding from private sources. No, you may not be able to live as comfortably for awhile, but you will be free.
I would be happy to tap into any resources I have to help others escape. I have found resources for others stuck in abusive situations and will do what I can. If there are any who are desperate, please PM me and I will do what I can.
|
|
|
|
Post by anon911 on Feb 20, 2021 14:00:18 GMT
Thanks for the welcome! I’m definitely enjoying the old threads, and I’ll no doubt be checking back on and off throughout the future. It’s somewhat addicting knowing that finally there’s a place to chat, but also knowing that you weren’t the only one to get screwed over by these people. It’s strikingly uncanny how similar the stories really are though. That’s for sure. I’ve gone back and read almost every post and am floored by the similarities of everyone’s story. It’s been interesting and I’ve had all the emotions- at times I’m relieved, sometimes angry and I have to admit I’ve giggled a lot too. |
|
|
|
Post by freefromprc on Feb 21, 2021 14:38:21 GMT
It’s somewhat addicting knowing that finally there’s a place to chat, but also knowing that you weren’t the only one to get screwed over by these people. It’s strikingly uncanny how similar the stories really are though. That’s for sure. I’ve gone back and read almost every post and am floored by the similarities of everyone’s story. It’s been interesting and I’ve had all the emotions- at times I’m relieved, sometimes angry and I have to admit I’ve giggled a lot too. Yes, it's remarkable how similar everyone's experiences have been. Everyone has the same scars. It's so predictable, I only wish existing members could see it. |
|
|
|
Post by throwaway2018 on Feb 22, 2021 20:10:19 GMT
I’ve gone back and read almost every post and am floored by the similarities of everyone’s story. It’s been interesting and I’ve had all the emotions- at times I’m relieved, sometimes angry and I have to admit I’ve giggled a lot too. Yes, it's remarkable how similar everyone's experiences have been. Everyone has the same scars. It's so predictable, I only wish existing members could see it. For what it's worth, it might be just as valuable that people only come across this organically. This is just my own personal experience, but the first time I heard about this forum was back when I was unquestioningly PR. I visited the site and strongly disagreed with everyone here and just wrote the place off as crabs in a bucket. A few years later (1 year of considering myself mentally exPR), I re-joined here, and it was only at first to let another atheist I came across know about another forum that I regularly post to. It took a while for me to overcome the biases I had already developed to this site, despite the fact that I didn't hold the beliefs that caused those biases anymore. When people come across this forum organically because they're actually questioning or wanting to read about exPR experiences, they may be more openminded and accepting of what they read here. They might be more willing to post anonymously with their criticisms and their doubts, rather than being fired up with righteous indignation at those dirty apostates who dare negatively post online about their most holy church. It's weird to think that I had a not insignificant distaste for this forum at one point and now it's one of my favorite places to post and read. Then again, lots of PRs might be less rigid than I was and wouldn't be so quick to write off everything that they disagree with like I was  |
|
|
|
Post by Skyfall on Feb 22, 2021 21:18:39 GMT
Yes, it's remarkable how similar everyone's experiences have been. Everyone has the same scars. It's so predictable, I only wish existing members could see it. For what it's worth, it might be just as valuable that people only come across this organically. This is just my own personal experience, but the first time I heard about this forum was back when I was unquestioningly PR. I visited the site and strongly disagreed with everyone here and just wrote the place off as crabs in a bucket. A few years later (1 year of considering myself mentally exPR), I re-joined here, and it was only at first to let another atheist I came across know about another forum that I regularly post to. It took a while for me to overcome the biases I had already developed to this site, despite the fact that I didn't hold the beliefs that caused those biases anymore. When people come across this forum organically because they're actually questioning or wanting to read about exPR experiences, they may be more openminded and accepting of what they read here. They might be more willing to post anonymously with their criticisms and their doubts, rather than being fired up with righteous indignation at those dirty apostates who dare negatively post online about their most holy church. It's weird to think that I had a not insignificant distaste for this forum at one point and now it's one of my favorite places to post and read. Then again, lots of PRs might be less rigid than I was and wouldn't be so quick to write off everything that they disagree with like I was It could be a bit of both. People trapped in the PRC need to know that this site exists for their benefit. Those "hardliners" will know that this site exists, but will reject. If anything this site plants seeds so that when things do go sideways, it's here. That being said, the Admin team here certainly knows this cult inside and out with decades of experience....more than most people even know. |
|
