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Elderberry
Potatoes are potatoes so why should it be, that you and I should mash together so awfully.
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Post by potato on Oct 17, 2015 9:34:35 GMT
Oh my, this is unbelievable. I don't think you're under any obligation to return anything. However, I think the Christ-like response would be to return the items (e.g. Luke 6:27-36). Depending on the relationship with your husband's sister, I'd be tempted to give the rest of the stuff to her and let his parents get it from her if they want. I'm not sure I'd want to keep anything that came from people like that, anyway. I wouldn't give it to the sister. That's basically making her deal with this messed up situation.
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Elderberry
Potatoes are potatoes so why should it be, that you and I should mash together so awfully.
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Post by potato on Oct 17, 2015 9:38:03 GMT
I'd give it back, but would spend no time in delivering it. If they want it, let them pick it up when it's convenient for you. I wouldn't be malicious, but cordial. Then never ask for anything from them ever again and move on. Life is too short for grudges. They refuse to stop when I'm home. And when they stop when my husband is home they badger him. That sounds like the parents problem. Your husband should just respond that if they want their stuff back they are just going to have to come and ask the Devil herself.... That's you, your the devil here, sorry you seem like a nice lady.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 17, 2015 17:27:03 GMT
I think it would be fun to proudly flaunt your new name.... Mrs. XXXXXXXXXX - I'm sure that would go over well. I can just see it now - your husband calling you, Mrs XXXXXXXXXX my parents are here, could you come here please darling?
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Post by crazychurch on Oct 19, 2015 15:01:52 GMT
For an organization that claims to be so spiritual, it seems that they are rather materialistic. Sound familiar? (Roman Catholic to the nth degree)If the only think that's being held over your head is STUFF, let them have it. Buy it again (even get the better version of it), and call it a day. These people are just crazy. No need to sink to their level.
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Post by crazychurch on Oct 19, 2015 15:03:52 GMT
Oh, and if they really want it- BE THERE. There's no need to hide. Be polite, courteous, and even help them. It will burn them up because they'll realize that they can't even hold that up to you.
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Post by KristianWrights on Oct 19, 2015 15:31:49 GMT
I am giving them a time Saturday morning and if they can't make the time, then I guess the stuff isn't that sentimental to them. - you would think MILLIONARES Could replace just "stuff"
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Post by cannalily on Oct 19, 2015 22:33:55 GMT
I'd give it back, but would spend no time in delivering it. If they want it, let them pick it up when it's convenient for you. I wouldn't be malicious, but cordial. Then never ask for anything from them ever again and move on. Life is too short for grudges. They refuse to stop when I'm home. And when they stop when my husband is home they badger him. Then they obviously don't really want their things. They're more interested in holding it over your head - like others here have suggested.
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Post by KristianWrights on Oct 21, 2015 12:54:10 GMT
She wants to have a private meeting between her and him. He refuse now at this point.
She sent 4 texts and 2 emails last night... just rehashing old stuff again.
I just have no idea how to help him get through this.
On a funny note - he wants to invite all of our friends over for breakfast Saturday to help his mom load the stuff up and to show her how much support we have. LOL Kind of funny.
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Post by cannalily on Oct 21, 2015 21:30:27 GMT
She wants to have a private meeting between her and him. He refuse now at this point. She sent 4 texts and 2 emails last night... just rehashing old stuff again. I just have no idea how to help him get through this. On a funny note - he wants to invite all of our friends over for breakfast Saturday to help his mom load the stuff up and to show her how much support we have. LOL Kind of funny. That's probably the best way to handle it! Have tons of people there and what her be on her best behavior!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 21, 2015 23:22:19 GMT
She wants to have a private meeting between her and him. He refuse now at this point. She sent 4 texts and 2 emails last night... just rehashing old stuff again. I just have no idea how to help him get through this. On a funny note - he wants to invite all of our friends over for breakfast Saturday to help his mom load the stuff up and to show her how much support we have. LOL Kind of funny. That's probably the best way to handle it! Have tons of people there and what her be on her best behavior! He's absolutely right to refuse a one-on-one private meeting. I agree that it would be a great idea to have your friends over that morning, or maybe your current pastor. Let us know what happens.
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Post by oops on Oct 22, 2015 0:04:48 GMT
may I suggest that you don't give an audience to their toxic drama. Seems to me they are using this stuff to keep having a reason or hook with which to contact you. Sad. Tell em it will be on the side of the street in a week if they do not come and get themselves.
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Post by KristianWrights on Oct 23, 2015 1:40:42 GMT
Admin is is ok to post voice recordings? I'd love to post what wonderful Christian words she says to me when she picks up her things that she let him borrow for 5 years
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Post by Admin on Oct 23, 2015 13:39:45 GMT
Admin is is ok to post voice recordings? I'd love to post what wonderful Christian words she says to me when she picks up her things that she let him borrow for 5 years We would prefer that no names are mentioned and that the audio doesn't "out" anyone on this forum.
The Admin Team
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Post by prnolonger on Oct 23, 2015 15:28:38 GMT
I would give it back, for sure. It was said already, but leverage is the key word. Get rid of as much leverage as possible and it will make your life 1000 times better.
I would bet most of us have this kind of experience.
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Post by KristianWrights on Oct 24, 2015 19:06:59 GMT
Well she came and got her stuff. Then was saying "your still ***** wife" that's when I told her to leave and walked in the house. And she also told me I was living in sin... And I responded according to you but not according to me. Just glad it's done and over with... Yet she still wants to see him alone.
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