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Post by cannalily on Oct 24, 2015 19:58:03 GMT
Well she came and got her stuff. Then was saying "your still ***** wife" that's when I told her to leave and walked in the house. And she also told me I was living in sin... And I responded according to you but not according to me. Just glad it's done and over with... Yet she still wants to see him alone. Yup move on. If she wants to talk to "him", don't waste another second on it. Move on. Good for you.
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Post by NotSureWhatToPutHere on Oct 25, 2015 0:21:46 GMT
Well she came and got her stuff. Then was saying "your still ***** wife" that's when I told her to leave and walked in the house. And she also told me I was living in sin... And I responded according to you but not according to me. Just glad it's done and over with... Yet she still wants to see him alone. I'm glad for your sake that its done. Its not worth your time and energy and you will find that more and more as you leave the toxicity behind that you will be able to breath more freely. As for meeting your dh alone... that totally needs to be his call. My Dh and I wanted to be above reproach in everything that we did when we left. So we meet with people... I actually just told my mom a few weeks ago some of the stuff that was said to us and more stories of why we left and the trauma that it was. She doesn't understand because she is happy and never thought of leaving... and that is totally fine. But, on the other hand... sometimes its just best to cut off the meetings... because if they don't get their way this time... they will just keep on requesting meetings... until you both just can't take it anymore... this can cause more stress for the two of you ~ which is what they want...
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Post by cannalily on Oct 25, 2015 11:22:28 GMT
Well she came and got her stuff. Then was saying "your still ***** wife" that's when I told her to leave and walked in the house. And she also told me I was living in sin... And I responded according to you but not according to me. Just glad it's done and over with... Yet she still wants to see him alone. I'm glad for your sake that its done. Its not worth your time and energy and you will find that more and more as you leave the toxicity behind that you will be able to breath more freely. As for meeting your dh alone... that totally needs to be his call. My Dh and I wanted to be above reproach in everything that we did when we left. So we meet with people... I actually just told my mom a few weeks ago some of the stuff that was said to us and more stories of why we left and the trauma that it was. She doesn't understand because she is happy and never thought of leaving... and that is totally fine. But, on the other hand... sometimes its just best to cut off the meetings... because if they don't get their way this time... they will just keep on requesting meetings... until you both just can't take it anymore... this can cause more stress for the two of you ~ which is what they want...This. Because you left without any fight, they want to fight because they want YOU to end it so that they can officially cut you both off. It's some sick psychological pressure and it's something that they must do.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 25, 2015 13:49:55 GMT
Well she came and got her stuff. Then was saying "your still ***** wife" that's when I told her to leave and walked in the house. And she also told me I was living in sin... And I responded according to you but not according to me. Just glad it's done and over with... Yet she still wants to see him alone. Life in the prc. Any loyal pr could be a travel agent for the Guilt Trip travel agency.
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Post by KristianWrights on Oct 27, 2015 13:49:04 GMT
Yesterday we get a box on our front door.... She returned two pot holders cause she said they weren't hers. Seriously lady!!! It's called Salvation Army!! No she just wants to keep lingering around our house. Move on!!!!!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 27, 2015 23:03:42 GMT
Yesterday we get a box on our front door.... She returned two pot holders cause she said they weren't hers. Seriously lady!!! It's called Salvation Army!! No she just wants to keep lingering around our house. Move on!!!!! Send her a note that they weren't yours either so you donated them to the Catholic Charities of Grand Rapids... in her name.
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Post by KristianWrights on Oct 31, 2015 3:00:58 GMT
See the artical I posted in divorce and remarriage. His mother needs to read it.
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Post by NotSureWhatToPutHere on Nov 1, 2015 12:54:34 GMT
This. Because you left without any fight, they want to fight because they want YOU to end it so that they can officially cut you both off. It's some sick psychological pressure and it's something that they must do. Exactly exactly exactly. Just the other day my mother (notice I don't call her "Mom") tried to fight with me. I basically said I wasn't going to stoop to that level; she insisted, so after 30 years, I brought up a few abusive things from my childhood and she said "No one will believe you" in an evil tone (obviously afraid I'm going to share my story). That sums it all up. End of! ** sigh ** I'm so sorry. There is so much abusive stuff that has happened and continues to happen, and you are correct, because no one talks about their sins... what they have done and what has been done to them... the abuse continues. Its all about fear of man... making sure that you are not embarrassed by anything. I used to be this way so much... actually I still am to some extent. Its pride... I know my mom is embarrassed that a couple of her kids left the PR church and most of the rest of her family... has kids who all stayed and are raising the perfect PR kids... you know... the ones who do drugs, drink, have sex... but are in church on Sunday... twice ~ so they are ALL GOOD! Thankfully she has seen some of the inconsistencies of the ones who stayed vs the ones who left and became Christians and treat her with respect and love.
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Post by cannalily on Nov 3, 2015 14:00:31 GMT
Exactly exactly exactly. Just the other day my mother (notice I don't call her "Mom") tried to fight with me. I basically said I wasn't going to stoop to that level; she insisted, so after 30 years, I brought up a few abusive things from my childhood and she said "No one will believe you" in an evil tone (obviously afraid I'm going to share my story). That sums it all up. End of! ** sigh ** I'm so sorry. There is so much abusive stuff that has happened and continues to happen, and you are correct, because no one talks about their sins... what they have done and what has been done to them... the abuse continues. Its all about fear of man... making sure that you are not embarrassed by anything. I used to be this way so much... actually I still am to some extent. Its pride... I know my mom is embarrassed that a couple of her kids left the PR church and most of the rest of her family... has kids who all stayed and are raising the perfect PR kids... you know... the ones who do drugs, drink, have sex... but are in church on Sunday... twice ~ so they are ALL GOOD! Thankfully she has seen some of the inconsistencies of the ones who stayed vs the ones who left and became Christians and treat her with respect and love. No only do they NOT want to address it, but they'd rather sweep it under the rug. Here's a classic example: exprc.freeforums.net/thread/505/facebook-post-pr-love
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Post by KristianWrights on Feb 3, 2016 3:07:47 GMT
Just a little update. Guess they read our poll.... not shocked. What's even more obvious, maybe funny, is that since then they have completely removed themselves from our lives. No shock! They got their earthly possessions and got to erase... put up their family...discarded us like trash... guess the John Deer has more value than the actual life they gave birth to.
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Post by freefromprc on Feb 5, 2016 12:43:03 GMT
Just a little update. Guess they read our poll.... not shocked. What's even more obvious, maybe funny, is that since then they have completely removed themselves from our lives. No shock! They got their earthly possessions and got to erase... put up their family...discarded us like trash... guess the John Deer has more value than the actual life they gave birth to. You aren't the only one kicked to the curb by this cult. Actually, the right way to view it is you got out of the box. If you watched maze runners, you are the one who escaped the maze. Inside the maze they are still clueless
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Post by oops on Feb 5, 2016 14:18:24 GMT
Right. Kicked out...because you are a little infectious leaven...and (though to my mind that's a good thing)... your particular "brand" of leaven to the PRC way of thinking is frightening...scary...and...life changing...because YOU ARE A LIGHT TO THE WORLD...a lamp in the darkness...and the PRC TULIP fragile system can not have you hanging around spreading the Gospel's Good News of love and grace...as...it...just...might...set...the...captive's... FREE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I say celebrate! Move on, worship God now as you best know Him...let God heal you in the folds and love of "new family and others"...and try not to be too boogered up for too long that you were kicked out, rejected, shunned...As...NEWS FLASH>>>It goes with the territory. Drop the resentments that weigh you down...see the truth in God's eyes...shining in love for you...(and yes, for "them") They are His kids too...so...deal gently if you can...have mercy. Be gracious.
CELEBRATE life in Christ now...and go on being a lamp, a light, a love, a joy to this world. It's part of the deal...being a disciple of Jesus...means you get kicked out, beat up...and maybe...even crucified.
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